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The Blindside Of Privilege

We live in a world where thankfulness is a sport of comparison and showing gratitude for our blessings often requires that we first place them against a contrasting background of someone else’s less-fortunate circumstance to see the extent of what has been done for us. In this twisted world, privilege (used here as an umbrella…

Style Your Adulthood

You’re a grown-up now, welcome to the pressure. Can you feel it? Are you choking yet? “Live your life” is a mockery when the only life you can live is the one defined for you, a box in which you scurry back and forth to earn rewards. “Scurry faster!” “Jump higher!” “Be better!” The weight…

Notes For A New Day

1. If you treat friends like strangers, don’t be surprised when they act like strangers. 2. Guard your peace. It’s worth fighting for. 3. It’s not fair to ask people to be better for you when you’re the worst. 4. Your instincts aren’t perfect. You know, eh? Good. 5. Have you been anyone’s ‘miracle’ lately? Try it, you might like it. 6. You don’t have to agree with anything to respect it. 7. Religion may not appeal to you but a mockery of someone else’s faith gives no benefit. 8. 2019 – The Year of Consistency 9. Be useful to…

The Reuse Manifesto

Remember tubs of ice cream that got a second life as containers for soup (and misled more than a few of us in the freezer) and those faded plastic bags that just wouldn’t go away? Turns out our mothers were on to something – plastics deserve to be reused. In this world of hot trends, fast fashion and disposable everything, reuse isn’t something most people are into. It’s ironic that while recycling campaigns are championed on the one hand, on the other, there’s an eagerness to not be caught dead in last season’s collection. Yet, the ‘relics’ of spring/summer 2018…

Breaking Busyness

Maybe you’re addicted to always doing something. I’m right there with you. There’s just something unnerving about not being occupied, so much so that I usually don’t know what to do with myself on (public) holidays and I often go back to doing the one thing I was given a break from – work. My weekends are almost as busy as my weekdays and not because I’m compelled but because I have forgotten how to unplug. It’s not safe. I know I must not carry on this way, so here’s what I’m doing to stop myself from hurting myself: 1. Using…

Self-Care Is A Trip To The Dentist

I showed up because I had a toothache, and there’s everything wrong with that. “What have you been doing to your teeth?” Um… well. If I had cared more about my mouth (which is really just caring about myself) earlier, I’d have gotten a dental check-up twice a year. A check-up would have shown that I…

A Letter To Myself At 30

Are you ready to start over? You must reconsider who you are and what you believe in, because everything you know about yourself is about to be challenged. I know your introversion, what it has saved you from, the hours spent alone and well spent probing the deepest parts of your heart to learn what defines and unmakes you. Flip the strength and you will find a strong weakness: the aloofness that stands between you and your calling to reach people, not to be known but to help them know how uninhibited and beautiful life can be. You will break…

What It Means To Live A Life Of Less

A stripped-down life may not be for everyone, but do you need everything you have to live well? Think about it, there’s a lot you can live without, a lot you can skip without suffering for it. But when you’re used to a particular lifestyle, it is easy to believe that your happiness, maybe even your existence, is dependent on the comforts you have surrounded yourself with. The daily assault of materialism in the world we live in does not help either. If you’re not being asked to buy something, you’re being asked to replace something you own (which is basically…

Practise Letting Go By Giving Things Away

The things we keep may be a reflection of who we are and what we carry on the inside. If this theory is true, and there’s some merit to it, we may be able to teach ourselves how to release people, anger, disappointment and hurt by giving away things in five steps. 1. Take stock of the things you own. This is a simple inventory of stuff, but with a twist: for every item inventoried, create a label that states how you came to own the item, how it is useful and what would happen if you no longer have…

Be Grateful, Deliberately

Making gratitude a lifestyle goes beyond the sporadic “thank you” and that equally infrequent overwhelming sense of privilege we feel, to a more deliberate attempt to cultivate a grateful heart. They say practice makes perfect, or at least gets us close enough to transforming a habit into a character. One way to practice gratitude is by going the extra mile of writing gratitude letters to people who have made a positive difference in our lives. An email works too, but this kind of “thank you” demands that we write on paper and deliver the letter in person. Very particular, I know, but if…