From Life Lessons

The Blindside Of Privilege

We live in a world where thankfulness is a sport of comparison and showing gratitude for our blessings often requires that we first place them against a contrasting background of someone else’s less-fortunate circumstance to see the extent of what has been done for us. In this twisted world, privilege (used here as an umbrella…

Style Your Adulthood

You’re a grown-up now, welcome to the pressure. Can you feel it? Are you choking yet? “Live your life” is a mockery when the only life you can live is the one defined for you, a box in which you scurry back and forth to earn rewards. “Scurry faster!” “Jump higher!” “Be better!” The weight…

Self-Care Is A Trip To The Dentist

I showed up because I had a toothache, and there’s everything wrong with that. “What have you been doing to your teeth?” Um… well. If I had cared more about my mouth (which is really just caring about myself) earlier, I’d have gotten a dental check-up twice a year. A check-up would have shown that I…

A Letter To Myself At 30

Are you ready to start over? You must reconsider who you are and what you believe in, because everything you know about yourself is about to be challenged. I know your introversion, what it has saved you from, the hours spent alone and well spent probing the deepest parts of your heart to learn what defines and unmakes you. Flip the strength and you will find a strong weakness: the aloofness that stands between you and your calling to reach people, not to be known but to help them know how uninhibited and beautiful life can be. You will break…

Are Your Life Goals Flexible?

From where I stand, doing too much is clearly connected to the absolutely natural norm of setting goals for ourselves. Sometimes, fueled by the flawed perception of achievement that convinces us to take on far more than we can handle (or equally bad, spend our lives hunting for breakthroughs), we set impractical goals that do not take our limitations into consideration. Everyone wants to ‘find purpose’, but we never want to accept that the most effectual life we could live may be a simple, unglamorous one. I’m not going to tell you how to define your success (even though we all…

Life Is Not A Sprint

I’ve been feeling stuck lately, trapped in the torturous repetition of commuting, working and getting whatever joyless sleep I can. I cycle the loop weekday after weekday from one month to the next till it’s “Happy New Year!” and the old beginning of the same old life arrives with muted fanfare wherever the first of three hundred and sixty-five midnights finds me. All activities outside this routine are brief intermissions between the dreary acts of an extended real-life drama, flashes of relief from the grind. I wish adulthood came with a warning label: ‘This train doesn’t stop till you do, permanently. Get on at your…

With All Overdue Respect

We may throw the word around a lot, but we have little regard for respect. And nothing good thrives in a culture of disrespect. It could even be the strongest reason for the toxicity that has overtaken the world. I’ll explain. I learned early in life to respect my elders, which basically meant that I…

12 Lessons From A Year Of Work

1. It’s very unlikely that you’ll save your way to a life of luxury. Manage your expectations of what your money can do for you. After several false starts, I started a couple of savings goals. Self-congratulations, but the interest on my savings was never really encouraging. All I had was some money I hadn’t…