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Style Your Adulthood

You’re a grown-up now, welcome to the pressure. Can you feel it? Are you choking yet? “Live your life” is a mockery when the only life you can live is the one defined for you, a box in which you scurry back and forth to earn rewards. “Scurry faster!” “Jump higher!” “Be better!” The weight…

Notes For A New Day

1. If you treat friends like strangers, don’t be surprised when they act like strangers. 2. Guard your peace. It’s worth fighting for. 3. It’s not fair to ask people to be better for you when you’re the worst. 4. Your instincts aren’t perfect. You know, eh? Good. 5. Have you been anyone’s ‘miracle’ lately? Try it, you might like it. 6. You don’t have to agree with anything to respect it. 7. Religion may not appeal to you but a mockery of someone else’s faith gives no benefit. 8. 2019 – The Year of Consistency 9. Be useful to…

Breaking Busyness

Maybe you’re addicted to always doing something. I’m right there with you. There’s just something unnerving about not being occupied, so much so that I usually don’t know what to do with myself on (public) holidays and I often go back to doing the one thing I was given a break from – work. My weekends are almost as busy as my weekdays and not because I’m compelled but because I have forgotten how to unplug. It’s not safe. I know I must not carry on this way, so here’s what I’m doing to stop myself from hurting myself: 1. Using…

What It Means To Live A Life Of Less

A stripped-down life may not be for everyone, but do you need everything you have to live well? Think about it, there’s a lot you can live without, a lot you can skip without suffering for it. But when you’re used to a particular lifestyle, it is easy to believe that your happiness, maybe even your existence, is dependent on the comforts you have surrounded yourself with. The daily assault of materialism in the world we live in does not help either. If you’re not being asked to buy something, you’re being asked to replace something you own (which is basically…

Practise Letting Go By Giving Things Away

The things we keep may be a reflection of who we are and what we carry on the inside. If this theory is true, and there’s some merit to it, we may be able to teach ourselves how to release people, anger, disappointment and hurt by giving away things in five steps. 1. Take stock of the things you own. This is a simple inventory of stuff, but with a twist: for every item inventoried, create a label that states how you came to own the item, how it is useful and what would happen if you no longer have…

Are Your Life Goals Flexible?

From where I stand, doing too much is clearly connected to the absolutely natural norm of setting goals for ourselves. Sometimes, fueled by the flawed perception of achievement that convinces us to take on far more than we can handle (or equally bad, spend our lives hunting for breakthroughs), we set impractical goals that do not take our limitations into consideration. Everyone wants to ‘find purpose’, but we never want to accept that the most effectual life we could live may be a simple, unglamorous one. I’m not going to tell you how to define your success (even though we all…